by Jennifer Greene-Sullivan
How does one successfully work with her husband day in and day out? It’s a question I’ve asked myself countless times, especially before I made the decision not to renew my teaching contract at Wheeler County High School. The thought of working alongside Chris, my husband, seemed impossible. So when God told me to lay my burdens down, I was both shocked and obedient. Writing that resignation letter without telling Chris felt bold, even reckless. But here I am—working with him every day. Unfortunately, not all days are good.
In fact, today was one of those days when I felt ready to call my principal, Mr. Bell, and ask for a place for me in his building by January 1, 2025. Communication can be difficult in our office, just as it sometimes is at home. When Chris gets hurt, he holds onto it, keeping quiet for a day or two or waiting for the perfect moment to express his frustration—sometimes in petty ways that drive me crazy. It infuriates me because, as adults, we should be above pettiness.
Chris rarely apologizes, and when he does, it’s usually without acknowledgment of the root cause. On my end, I struggle with holding back my anger, waiting for the moment I lose composure, or—on better days—choosing to take it to prayer. Choosing prayer is never easy, especially when I feel unheard and invalidated. “Be angry, and sin not: let not the sun go down upon your wrath” (Ephesians 4:26 KJV) is a verse that often challenges me. Today, I told him flat-out that I refuse to live and work under these conditions. His response? He hugged me, said he was sorry, and took me to lunch.
That simple gesture was more than just an apology; it was a reminder of why I’m committed to this journey. In that moment, I realized how much we both needed grace, not just from each other, but from God. It was a turning point—a reminder that love and forgiveness are more powerful than frustration. This moment was significant, not just as a response, but as a testament to how far we’ve come and how deeply we need the strength that only God can provide in our relationship.
While hugging him in that moment, I was presented a true test of restraint. I asked the Holy Spirit to keep my mouth shut when I felt a surge of words waiting to spill out—words I’d regret. Ultimately, the Holy Spirit, in His infinite wisdom, came through. “Set a watch, O Lord, before my mouth; keep the door of my lips” (Psalm 141:3 KJV). I didn’t say those harsh, hurtful words. I held my tongue, and that felt like a victory.
Today is a victory for our marriage, for our business, for our family, and for those who rely on us. Will there be more struggles? Absolutely. Will we face new conflicts? Without a doubt. But I’m committed. And commitment is just that—a choice I make every day. “And above all things have fervent charity among yourselves: for charity shall cover the multitude of sins” (1 Peter 4:8 KJV).
As I flounder through life with doubt and missteps, I’m constantly reminded of God’s grace. He offers me love, favor, and forgiveness, and I’m called to extend that same grace to my brother, sister, mother, friend—and especially to my husband. “Bear ye one another’s burdens, and so fulfil the law of Christ” (Galatians 6:2 KJV). Learning to abide in Him while He abides in me is a lesson in love, forgiveness, charity, and graciousness.
Reflection:
Working alongside my husband has been a journey filled with challenges, moments of frustration, and incredible growth. In those moments when I want to retreat or let my emotions take over, I’m reminded that true strength comes from God. Learning to pause, to abide in His presence, and to seek the guidance of the Holy Spirit is what sustains me. It’s not about perfect communication or a flawless relationship; it’s about showing up with love and grace, even when it’s hard. The battle for patience, forgiveness, and understanding is not just for the sake of peace—it’s a reflection of Christ’s love in action. When I remember that God’s grace covers me in my weakest moments, I am able to extend that same grace to others, especially my husband.
Prayer:
Heavenly Father, I come before You grateful for Your unending grace and love. Thank You for reminding me that my worth is not defined by my perfection or achievements, but by Your love and sacrifice. Lord, help me to extend the same patience, forgiveness, and love to those around me, especially in moments of difficulty. When communication falters and emotions rise, I ask for Your wisdom to guide my words and actions. Let Your peace fill my heart and home, and may Your Spirit teach me to abide in Your presence daily. Strengthen my commitment, renew my spirit, and let Your love be the foundation on which I build my relationships. In Jesus’ name, I pray. Amen.
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